It is helpful to use “I” statements when interacting with students who are escalated. Avoid the use of “you” and “why” as it can cause students to further escalate and become defensive. Give students space. Pointing, “negative” non-verbals (body posture, placement of arms, facial expressions) and getting close can also trigger them. If you feel yourself becoming escalated, remember the importance of taking a deep breath to calm down. It may help the student stay calm and build a safe, trusting relationship if you are calm during interactions.